Your children know something has changed, but they don’t understand what it is or why it’s happening. If you’re suffering with PTSD or TBI, your children may be feeling some of the following ways:

• Angry that you don’t care about their accomplishments or problems
• Guilty that they are to blame for how you’re acting
• Scared of you or what you may do next
• Unsure about whether or not you love them
• Worried that you cannot take care of them

Make it clear that your injury is not your child’s fault. Depending on your child’s age and maturity, explain what happened to you. Use simple language for young children, but be honest.

Assure them that you are there for them, answer their questions and comfort them. If you’re not sure how to start the conversation, don’t be afraid to seek help from a fellow veteran and/or a professional counselor.

One of the best ways to help your children is by helping yourself. Seeking help and beginning to regain control over your emotions and your life will allow you to be there for your children.

By facing and conquering your struggle, you can provide the love, security and support your children need and deserve.

Assure your children that they have many people in their lives who love them and are there for them. Work with family, friends and teachers to ensure that your children are getting extra attention and the care they need.

Like you, your children may be struggling with your injury and your return home. While this is a normal reaction to a parent’s injury, if your children’s behavior continues to worsen, they may need additional help.

Signs that your child may need some professional help and support include the following:

• Acting out or withdrawing
• Becoming aggressive or physically violent
• Fighting with friends and family
• Problems in school
• Showing signs of  anxiety, depression or PTSD themselves, such as sleep disturbance, nightmares or irritability

Come in for a visit to find out how our team can help you and your children.

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